This week my heart wants to tackle something very personal. Which means I need to bring you in a little closer to my heart.
This particular subject transfers across different topics, but the formula is the same for them all. For me, this entry involves my insecurity as a Voice Actor.
I want you dear ones to be truly protective of your hearts in this industry. You need to have boundaries before absorbing information. Let me share a bit of what I mean…
Let me tell you something about myself.
I’m an extremely private person.
Some folks are comforted by laying all their stuff out for folks to read. That’s not how I roll…
UNLESS I think it may be of some benefit to someone else which is why I’m sharing this with you today–I think it could be helpful for others who may feel insecurity in voiceover.
Now, I have pretty good boundaries on social media, BUT every once in a while, I read a post that really hits me. It affects me more than I would have expected.
Have you ever read a post (a looooonnnnggg one), where:
- The person is disappointed about “something”
- Then, to make themselves feel better about the disappointment, the “something” is torn down
- Then they puff themselves up instead of just owning the disappointment?
- Then you find yourself feeling less than because the “something” that was torn down is something you’re a part of and it’s that “thing” that made you feel like you were doing something right?
No? Well, it’s happened to me. Lots of times since I decided to start my VO business.
Here’s the easy short answer…LET. IT. GO.
The longer I allow what another person says (or writes) to take up residence in a space that’s not for rent, the more that seed of doubt and insecurity is fed and grows into something that I never planted.
To be fair, what another person posts or writes truly has nothing to do with me in the long run.
We process in order to help ourselves and others (I hope) when they face similar circumstances.
But once we are done processing, the important thing for me (and my readers) to remember is that your successes in YOUR journey matter. ALL. OF. THEM!
If you achieve something that another doesn’t, don’t let it diminish your success. Don’t let their disappointment bring you down from your win.
Do I get disappointed when something doesn’t go the way I thought or wanted it to? Uh, heck to the yeah!
BUT…that’s not the end of my journey. It’s just a moment in it.
Believe it or not, the so called
“negatives” are necessary for us to grow. Otherwise, we just acquire an “entitlement” mentality. Did you know there’s no growth in that type of thinking?
Let me tell you a truth about myself. My identity is NOT in what I achieve as a VO. I am already content in my circumstances (Though, I want to continue to grow into a better individual).
If I don’t win “that” award or get “that” booking, I may or may not be disappointed, but I can promise you it will not ruin my day.
My voice (coupled with my skillset), is what sets me apart from others. It’s my signature, if you will. It’s me. It’s my credential for my work and why my clients hire me. That, and my work ethic… (wink!).
Be careful how much of the negative you allow your heart and mind to absorb. Remember to distance yourself from the “time sucking” vortex of counterfeit social media, dear ones!